How Our Generation Forgot How to Date

I know I haven’t blogged in a while, but recently there has been a lot of discussion amongst my friends and family about relationships. Good old relationships. And I wanted to write a little blog post on what I think about how relationships are perceived by our generation. Is there really any meaning left to being “in a relationship?” How are you even supposed to know that you’re in one? Is the “hook-up culture” ruining the way our generation views relationships?

Too often, I hear stories of Tinder dates. Too often I hear my friends talk about their other halves liking other people’s selfies. Too often I hear my guy mates sit around and discuss the latest girl they got with. Now, I’m not saying it isn’t entertaining. But surely it can’t be particularly healthy.

Instead of relationships being about trying to keep each other happy, I can’t help but feel that they’re now becoming more about trying to keep others happy. Instead of being about just two people, they’re about the two people plus all their various followers on social media.

Romantic gestures used to be things like surprising each other and sending flowers in the post. Nowadays, it seems they’ve diminished into liking each other’s Instagram posts and naming each other as ‘Man Crush Monday’/’Woman Crush Wednesday’ (vom).

In addition, relationships have become so much more uncertain than they once were. In the olden days, you had a boy and a girl who liked each other and wanted to be together and that was that. Now, you have friends with benefits, people ‘seeing each other’ and people who quite frankly just have no idea what on earth is going on.

How are we meant to teach future generations the value of love when our idea of being in a relationship is updating your Facebook status?

At the end of the day, what I believe it comes down to, is learning to become someone you love before you start trying to be with someone you think you might but are not entirely sure that you  “love.”

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One thought on “How Our Generation Forgot How to Date

  1. It’s All about “trust”. We have the last 5 generations teaching distrust by getting a divorce instead of fixing the issue. So we get your generation trying to redesign relationships so “that” is no longer an issue. Trust being the issue. Whether it’s trusting too easily or not trusting at all, still it’s about trust.
    So what I teach is how to follow your own happiness, in such a way that you are completely in control and your lover is just along for the ride. As well as practicing healthy boundaries so trust can thrive.
    The whole Facebook status and social media is about the lack of trust and the fear of rejection. When we live with trust and follow our own happiness it all seems so trivial. It’s not what others are or not doing, it’s all about you.

    I like how your mind works, I like that your questioning your environment. Trust that your moving in the direction that will serve in your best interest.
    My blessings to you…

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