In an ideal world, all our ex’s and old flames would be shipped off to a remote island somewhere so we never had to cross paths with them again.
Unfortunately, we live on Earth.
And sometimes, things don’t always pan out the way we want them to. Sometimes, these exes and past lovers somewhat miraculously become, or indeed stay, part of our friendship group. Now, I’m all for being friends with your exes (oo, controversial – comment if you want me to do a separate post on this!) if you’re both mature and platonic enough to handle it.
Personally, I just don’t see the point in completely throwing away someone who you obviously would have the foundations of a pretty good friendship with. I’m not saying be friends as soon as you have stormed out of each other’s houses and burnt each other’s stuff. But give it time and you might find that you can actually be really good friends.
Anyway, enough rambling. The point is, if you are friends with your ex or even have mutual friends with him, you’re probably going to run into his new girlfriend at some point.
Possibly just when you are casually hanging with your mates, or perhaps on a night out when both you and her are somewhat intoxicated and then proceed to confess how much you don’t want things to be awkward between you. Despite never even having met before. (Can you tell I’m speaking from experience?)
Although you may feel like telling your new ex’s new boo about how she will definitely get cheated on and you have heels higher than her standards, don’t.
Just be civil. You don’t have to be friends, but you may find that eventually you will be. What I am trying to get at is, there is no point holding grudges against someone you don’t even know yet.
By all means, occasionally bitch about your ex’s new squeeze to your friends if you feel you need to let off some steam. But do not be mean to her or god forbid, try to get involved in their relationship.
It is just not worth it.
If you are old enough to have been in a relationship, you should be old enough to maturely handle situations where you have to interact with your ex and their new partner. If not, go back to Tinder and start from square one.
What are your thoughts on relationships and being friends with exes? Let me know in the comments below!